AROUSAL IN THE FEMALE: HER PARTNER
Monica, an advertising executive, said to me, ‘Very few Indian men know the art of arousing a female. Most of them fumble, are clumsy, heavy-handed and just want to grab the breasts. They think they are peeling mangoes!’ She hesitated, played with the pin-cushion on my table and ruefully remarked, ‘As for intercourse, most of them are what the Americans call ‘Slam-Bam-Thank-You-Ma’am’ and discharge in a few minutes. There are classes for shorthand, typing, elocution, advanced management, but there is nothing for teaching males how to turn on their partners and for females how
Tito respond sexually.’ Monica is right. ‘The Tragedy of the Bedroom’, as Tolstoy calls it, could be easily avoided with a little knowledge of how to arouse a woman.
Different women look for different attributes in men. Some want intelligence, social status, wealth, power, while others are attracted by an ability to converse, wit, or skill in sports. Sunil Gavaskar makes the heart of many females throb, and so does the handsome Nawab of Pataudi with his polished batting and impeccable behaviour. Being handsome, is, however, low down on the list of most women.
One frequently finds positively ugly-looking men being ardently pursued and loved by very beautiful and attractive females. ‘I don’t know what she sees in him!’ say the jealous onlookers who have lost the race. The answer: a sensuous man.
A sexually knowledgeable and experienced male once told me, ‘Doctor, contrary to whatever you read in the books, an extra inch of male anatomy makes all the difference to some women. A few become orgasmic just looking at a generously endowed male, whilst others reach many orgasms with such males.’ However, with the majority of women, the size of the penis is low down on their list of priorities. Most “women enjoy sex best if they love their partners, rather than have it with someone for whom they have no emotional attachment What they want most is gentleness, tenderness, a man who cares for them and desires them. Many women get aroused quickly not only because their partner wants sex but because he desires them and appreciates them.
SEX AND THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE: Sexual desire is highest just before the onset of the period and for the first two days of the period. The woman is easily aroused and responds more intensely during this time.
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