IMPLANT SURGERY: THE PARTNER’S REACTION
“I’m an optimistic person. At first it was new. You think oh my God.’ Now I don’t even think about it. It just takes a little practice, like with everything new,” says Janice, a real estate agent whose high energy is reflected in her vibrant voice. “It took at least a couple of months to adjust to it. After a while it was the same as natural,” she explains. Janice and her husband, Bill, have been married more than 30 years.
Jane, a 48-year-old self-described “retired Mom” who’s been married 20 years, is also satisfied with the results of her husband’s surgery. “I’m definitely pleased. It’s 90 percent as good as when he was in his 20′s, and that’s terrific. And no more premature ejaculations! Even if he does ejaculate, he can go longer. You do have to change positions. The woman-on-top works better because of the bend of the prosthesis.” The only change Jane noticed is a slight reduction in the circumference of the erect penis. “Thaf s where he loses about 10 percent,” she says.
For Jane, a clear-headed look at the potency problem and the solution was helpful. “We’ve adjusted. Ifs like false teeth, or a false arm. I look at it like this: You lose something, you replace it.”
Studies have found that, generally, women are satisfied with the results of the implant. Not surprisingly, there is a correlation between the partners’ satisfaction: Usually, when one is happy, so is the other. And the more involved the partner is from the beginning, the more likely she is to be pleased with the results.
Getting Used to the New You
Ifs normal to have some adjustment problems after implant surgery. Most couples solve these without much difficulty. Just knowing what to expect can make it easier.
Each couple is different but ifs not uncommon to:
• Have some anxiety about being able to have intercourse.
• Notice that the penis looks somewhat different.
• Take some time to adjust to the fact that erection is no longer physical evidence of arousal—that desire can be shown in other ways.
• Need to try out different positions.
• Need to spend time getting comfortable to the point where the implant is no longer an issue.
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