EMOTION AND SEX
Whatever men may feel, most women want the sexual experience to be an emotional as well as a physical bond. These women perceive sex not merely as brief genital contact, pleasurable though it may be, but also as sharing an emotional, intimate part of each other. They perceive sex as the happiness of sharing experiences, the fun of doing things – sexual and other – together. They believe that pleasure is obtained by giving pleasure. Many accept that the relationship may last for a long time, or may be short lived, but that during it emotional involvement is essential, or much of the joy of sex is reduced.
Of course, this means that both partners have to be emotionally involved. To be a better lover you need to be involved, or to you sex is just intravaginal masturbation. One woman quoted in The Hue Report said that her greatest displeasure in sex was the feeling that she was ’simply a substitute for his hand, a dish of mashed potatoes, or any warm place he can stick it into and come’.
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